Energy Vampires & Empaths - OH MY!

Oh the journey of an empath. The blessing and curse of feeling things so deeply. Absorbing energy, being overstimulated and the genuine empathy that comes from truly understanding another's pain. 

Being an empath, lightworker and yoga teacher, I often get asked by people on how I protect my own energy in conducting reiki as well as how people can protect their own energy day to day. There are so many ways to protect your energy and the key is to be consistent with these practices. I know I have been guilty of getting in a self care groove and once I start feeling really good, I let the habits drop off.

Cue: energy vampires. Our greatest teachers. If you have one in your life - thank them for the lessons they teach you. Hey Carly, wtf is an energy vampire? You might be asking yourself. You know the type. Someone in your life that is chronically negative. They come to you with all of their drama, wanting to glean your positive energy but as soon as you have a problem.....crickets. These people can be draining, physically, emotionally and energetically. But they have also been the conduit of me wanting to help myself. 

So here we go. Here are a few of my tried and true favorite ways to protect my own energy. These are simply things I have learned from others and also tried myself after years of working in social work, reiki & yoga. It took me a while to find what worked for me, including getting sick after sessions, chronic anxiety and migraines/psychic headaches. I have noticed a huge shift in my own energy levels & personal power. 

1. Rub a dub dub. If you are in a profession where you are hands on with other people (yoga teacher, massage therapist, nurse, reiki practitioner, etc) wash your hands often both physically and energetically. After I finish a session or in my group work, I run one hand along one arm from shoulder to fingers and repeat. I simply say: "I release Sally's energy from my energetic body" to myself. I'm also sure to wash my hands regularly. 

2. Sage YO self! Keep sage or palo santo wood handy in your home. Keep some by your front door - so before you step foot in your house, you can cleanse your own energy before bringing anyone else's energy into your home. 

3. You Salty??? I sprinkle salt outside the front door of my house & bedroom. If you have more than one entrance to your house, sprinkle salt outside your entrances. Salt is highly healing, cleansing and protective. Another tip is to frequently take epsom salt baths. 

4. Break out the bubbly! No not like that. I mean your energy bubble! Have you ever walked into a room, store, space - wherever and just immediately felt the energy was "off." If this happens to you , take a step back, stop and take 5 mindful breaths. Ask yourself to be protected in this situation. Some people find it helpful to imagine themselves in a bubble, with a white light around them or an invisible shield. I find the visual helped me when I was starting out. 

5. Red bottoms. Yes, like the shoes. Think of where your feet, your shoes and your steps are taking you. Are they in toxic locations or in locations that fuel you. If you have no choice but to enter a toxic environment (let's say this is your place of work) - take your shoes off before you come home. If possible - dedicate a few pairs of shoes that are work only and even keep them in your car. Our feet pick up energy EVERYWHERE - you wouldn't want to track dog poop in your house just as much as you don't want to track negativity in there. 

I hope this all makes sense my beautiful empath friends. Be sure to take time for yourself and your self care. I run plenty of retreats that help you with these tools, and my next one is June in Costa Rica! Click here to get more information on this exclusive self care getaway. 

New Body..who dis??

Recently, I was chatting with a new friend about health, fitness and body positivity. Another day at the office, amirite?? We exchanged cringe worthy tales about the things we begrudgingly did in the past to try to drop weight or feel better about ourselves. 

We ended up talking about is what happens when you reach your goals and lose that weight you've been wanting to loose or drop those last few sizes. All of a sudden you're a stranger to your own body. This is something that's not talked about enough. 

It's assumed that when you drop the 10lbs or get to the size 4 or whatever it is that is your goal, you're *supposed* to be happy, pat yourself on the back and move on with your life. That's not always the case though. Anyone who has been through a drastic weight loss or transformation knows what it's like to be a stranger to their own body - but why don't more people talk about this?

Part of this, I think, is that expectation that you met your goal - so be happy and get over it. I think another component is that if you're not working on your internal fitness, reaching your external goals seems empty. Having abs or fitting in to those jeans you haven't worn since your glory days is all well and good - but it doesn't get to the root of your unhappiness - especially (if you're like me) and struggled with emotional eating. 

Recovering from my binge eating disorder was a long and arduous process. I attempted to do so alone and in shame for longer than I'd like to admit. Even when I lost the weight I had gained, something was missing. I still felt deeply unhappy with myself, even though the outside package was what I "wanted." So what happened?? I ended up gaining the weight back and continuing to wallow around in unhappiness.

Ok - this does have a happy ending! What changed? When I sought support and started working my emotional fitness as much as my physical fitness. The synergy of doing this has made me more connected to myself, my purpose and my true mission along with the bells and whistles of having a toned and fit body. Not just that - I have surrounded myself with a community of amazing women and men who are likeminded. So the moral of the story is that you don't have to do it alone and you don't have to live in a strangers home - when you should feel peacefully at home in your God Pod. We only get one, so let's treat it right.