Yeah. I said it. Now you just need to believe it. I can't help to think how often people, especially women, live in their negativity. I was having a conversation with my girlfriends earlier today and was saddened by how much of the conversation was focused on each of our shortcomings. Things we feel self conscious about or our perceived flaws. I think we are all guilty of this from time to time. Hey, self degradation has been my go to form of humor for as long as I can remember. But the more I think about it, the more toxic that kind of joking around can be. Even though it's a joke - putting those thoughts and words into your head begins to make your mind conceptualize those funny little jabs.
Don't get me wrong, I think a good venting sesh with your best buds can be cathartic and often times necessary. But take a look at the conversations you have with your friends, family and those closest to you. Be mindful and present. Is the topic of conversation continuously focused on something you did wrong, something you don't like about yourself or are they positive and uplifting?
I am a firm believer in raising your vibration and and the law of attraction. Being mindful in your day to day life is a powerful exercise in self love and attracting the things you want in your life. Earlier this year, probably around new year, I decided to write down the things I wanted out of the upcoming year. Everything from finances, to love, adventure and weight loss. Not only did I write down everything I wanted, but I wrote down everything I was willing to do in order to make those things happen. As I sit with my tea and write this, I realized that EVERYTHING I had written down I have attracted into my life.
I make a conscious effort on a daily basis to reframe my thoughts into positive ones. Was I always like this? HELL NO! I was the biggest offender of negative self talk. Or if I wasn't saying negative things to myself, I was coping in toxic ways. Through food, alcohol, drugs, relationships, self harm - you name it. Depression was a way of life for me for a long time. I know what it's like to feel dark, hopeless, lost and stuck. I don't ever want to invite that back into my life. It's hard work to be positive on a daily basis, but eventually it becomes habit. Is that to say I don't have bad days? Um, no! That's not how life works. Bad days happen. Grief, loss and pain are inevitable - but as Buddah says, suffering is not. I allow myself to have sadness in small doses, because that's a healthy part of life. But when I hear the self doubt starting to creep in, I politely tell that negative Nancy voice to shut the hell up because I'm a freaking rock star. And guess what - SO. ARE. YOU.